What men are too embarrassed to ask about their health — and what it costs them

Thank you for joining me today. I want to start by asking you about something that most people in your position rarely get asked — not the professional achievements, but the internal work that made them possible. Can you take me back to the moment when you understood what you were really building here?

Dr. Rakesh Subbiah built SuamiSihat after recognising that Malaysian men systematically avoid healthcare until crisis forces the conversation. In this episode he maps the cultural architecture behind the silence — why men equate health vulnerability with weakness, what the actual data says about preventable decline, and how shame is structured differently for men than the healthcare system assumes.

On the challenge that defines this work

When you say that, I notice something — there's a particular kind of pressure in what you're describing. Not just operational pressure, but something more existential. The sense that what you're building matters in a way that doesn't allow for half-measures. How do you hold that?

That's exactly it. And I think what most people don't see from the outside is that the pressure doesn't come from external expectations — it comes from your own clarity about what the work is for. Once you understand that, everything else is just problem-solving. The hard part is reaching that clarity in the first place. Most leaders never do.

On what the work demands of the person doing it

I'm interested in the personal cost of what you're describing. Not in a deficit framing — I mean the way this kind of leadership shapes the person who does it. What has this work made you?

It has made me specific. I don't mean narrow — I mean I have a much clearer understanding of what I am and am not built for. That kind of specificity is often mistaken for rigidity from the outside. It's not. It's just the result of years of learning what works and what doesn't — at a level of resolution that most professional development frameworks don't reach.

Full transcript continues on published episode page · Dr. Rakesh Subbiah on men's health, testosterone, stress, and why the silence around these topics is making things significantly worse.